How to Talk to Anyone in Any Situation

What is Communication 

Unlock the Secrets of Effective Communication 

Before we can bring ourselves to the techniques and facts, we have to first learn what communication is. What is it? How does it work? Without being able to answer the basic questions of communication, you will not be able to successfully communicate. 

It’s like trying to predict the future. How would you be able to predict what will happen if you don’t first look at the repetition of the past? Core knowledge is the stepping-stone of advance knowledge. 

So, what is communication? Communication is the act of talking, or a conversation between two individuals or a group of people. 

For ironically, despite the fact that communication is a natural ability that we were born with, it is also the hardest ability for us to improve on. 

Some people, on the other hand, cannot communicate at all. These are the people that tend to stay within their closed shell and try their best to stay silent. Then there are those that are unable to voice their thoughts properly. The point is, there is a wrong way to communicate and your goal is to communicate the right way. 

If you’ve never thought about it until now, many conflicts – like war – often stem from the act of miscommunication. 

Words are powerful and, if conveyed improperly, it can be viewed as offensive to the other party whether you mean it or not. 

The number one reason why miscommunication tends to occur is because the speaker does not take the listener into considering. The speaker might say some- thing that seems as a joke to him, but proven offensive to the listener.

The main reason why because the speaker may have disregarded the listener’s circumstances, past, state of mind, or even culture. Think about it. If you were a speaker and you made a light joke about someone’s race in an attempt to be funny, you will either receive a laugh in return or a slap to the face. 

Everybody communicates. Therefore, everybody is a communicator. However, a good communicator is able to express his message across to his audience just enough for them to understand. 

However, a great communicator is able to express his message clearly to his audience while paying attention to their reaction and making sure that his listeners understand what he is saying. 

He pays attention to every detail that his audience sends out and puts his audience in the center of his attention until the conversation has ended. He knows his way around with words and he is sure to confidently portray what he wants his audience to hear. 

Despite the audience, a great communicator will make the conversation work no matter how many times he has to change his words around or change the subject. The proper term used for a great communicator is a conversationalist, and in order to become a conversationalist you must first be a great listener. Although being a listener seems like a simple job, it’s not. 

Benefits of a Conversationalist 

The great thing about being a conversationalist is the fact that it will help make your life easier than it was before. If you’ve ever been stressed out about trying to find some trustworthy people to help you with your business or dilemma, being a conversationalist will bring those people to you. 

That’s right. Rather than having to spend the time stressing and worrying about who would be a good candidate to work with, all you have to do is talk and have those candidates flock around you. 

For a conversationalist, social gatherings are the best place to be at. The reason why is for the marketing purposes. Everybody that you meet through life will know someone who is a self-made entrepreneur. 

Whether the person’s business is a big corporation or a small one will not matter. All you need to know is that entrepreneurs know other entrepreneurs. So once you’ve met one, you can meet the rest of them. 

That is why most conversationalists see social gatherings as a land of opportunity. The more people you know, the wider your connections become. 

Establishing Yourself 

Before you can become a successful conversationalist, you have to know the basic do’s and don’ts of communication. 

There is a wrong way to communicate just like how there is a right way. The most important part about communicating with another person is the fact that you can run the risk of offending them if you’re not careful with your words. 

In order to become a conversationalist, you have to establish yourself to the other party. This means that you have to show your audience that you are someone worth talking to. 

If you take business into consideration, conversationalists have to be presentable, credible, and noticeable. If you’re trying to gain some connections during social gatherings, you have to show that you’re intelligent and well rounded enough to show that you’re someone who is serious and won’t waste other people’s time. 

You have to get people to want to be around you and want to talk to you. If some- one is trying to get away from you within the first five minutes of the conversation then you are doing something wrong. 

Also, when you are trying to establish yourself to others, you have to portray your confidence to them. Now there is a difference between confidence and pride. Pride is what you want to avoid. 

Basic Do’s and Don’ts 

This section will talk about what you should do in a conversation and what you should not do. These tips are very useful in a conversation and will help you get the other party’s attention. 

Although it is short and simple, it’s important to follow since many of them are basic courtesy. We’ll be going over the do’s first before me move onto the don’ts. 

Do’s 

1. Do take some consideration to the person that you’re speaking to. It takes two people to hold a proper conversation. Therefore, if you end up making them hate you, the conversation will be over. 

You have to be wary of your audience and adjust your approach with them accordingly. Not everyone will be drawn to the same approach. You will meet shy people, aggressive people, weird people, and people who you don’t want to spend another minute talking to. 

However, the most important aspect that you should approach everyone with is confidence. If you can easily portray your confidence then your audience will feel at ease no matter who you’re talking to. 

After all, nervousness has never helped anybody. If it makes you feel any better, the other person is feeling the same way. So why not take the chance and show them that everything is perfectly fine. 

After all, nervousness has never helped anybody. If it makes you feel any better, the other person is feeling the same way. So why not take the chance and show them that everything is perfectly fine. 

Just make sure that you think before you speak and that you’re listening to what the other party is saying. Notice whether you’re moving around too much or looking somewhere else when the other party is talking. 

3. Pay attention to your manners or someone else will surely do it for you. During a social meeting, if you notice someone that you have previously met before, never assume that they will remember you. 

4. Forget about yourself and focus more on your audience. During any conversation, you want to focus on your audience. They will expect for you to focus on them because you approached them for a conversation. 

5. Be curious and ask questions. One of the many aspects of being a great conversationalist is the art of asking questions. 

6. Pay attention to what the other person says. It’s basic courtesy to give your audience the respect that they deserve by listening to what they have to say. If you’re asking them a question that you want them to answer then you are expected to listen. 

Don’ts 

Now that we’re done with the do’s, we’ll be going over the don’ts of being a good conversationalist. 

1. Do not brag, ever. Bragging is the number one thing that you can do to piss someone off. The more you pinpoint how great of a person you are will cause the other party to notice how much of an annoyance you are. 

2. Never gloat as if your life depended on it. The only thing that people hate more than a bragger is a gloater. If you feel the need to push your superiority upon someone’s face then no one will want to talk to you ever again. 

3. Don’t be a know-it-all. People hate know it all because for one thing, you don’t know it all. For the average person, they will get annoyed speaking with you be- cause there is no point in them continuing a conversation where you are bragging about how knowledgeable you are compared to them. 

4. Don’t give advice. Unless if the person directly asks you for it during a conversation, don’t bother giving them any. Just listen to their situation and try to change the topic. 

5. Do not cut people off when they are talking. That is rude and very irritating to put up with. Even if you think you know what the other person is about to say, don’t say anything and wait for them to finish talking. 

6. Try your best not to move around so much. Occasionally moving to switch your standing or sitting position is fine. However, always moving after every few sentences while a person is talking will come off as rude. 

7. Don’t ever try to argue with someone during a conversation. Unless if you were having an intense debate or a pretend trial, you want to avoid arguing at all cost. Arguing for the fun of it is not going to be fun for the other party. 

Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone 

Everybody has a hard time stepping out of his or her comfort zone at a certain point. The most difficult one that most people have trouble with is having the courage to talk to strangers. 

This does not include dangerous looking people that might potentially rob you or kill you. The people that we are talking about are those that you will find in social gatherings or during any organizations. 

It’s always going to feel difficult approaching them in the beginning because you don’t want to feel embarrassed about messing up or saying something stupid. Yet, never fear, for the worst that can happen is the fact that you will fail and never see them again. 

This will be a very quick chapter about how to step out of your comfort zone and approach other people. 

We will be going over what you can do when you approach someone new for a conversation and how you can lower the awkwardness that can possibly occur. 

Approaching Strangers 

When you were young, your parents always told you to never talk to strangers. Of course, they are doing that for your protection because you don’t know what type of person there are out there. 

However, now that you’re an adult, you are free to make your own decision and you are old enough to be able to tell who looks dangerous and who doesn’t. 

As an adult, it is important for you to establish as many connections as you possibly can. You don’t have to know the whole world, but enough people to help you out when you need them too. 

After all, life is a business and what is a business without people? You want to get to know people who are within your area of expertise and outside your area of expertise. 

After all, life is a business and what is a business without people? You want to get to know people who are within your area of expertise and outside your area of expertise. 

From there, you always want to find a person who you don’t know and approach them. Do not worry about them rejecting you because the worst that will happen is the fact that you failed. Even so, the chances of them responding to you would be high since they are there for the same reason that you are. 

Outside Situations 

If you are planning to approach a random stranger in public then by all means, go for it. All you are doing is approaching someone within a big community. 

If the idea is already implemented within your mind, take action and don’t hesitate. If you hesitate then you will end up making excuses to back out before you have even tried. Don’t worry; there will always be someone who is willing to converse with you. 

When you approach a stranger, remember to be nice and courteous. Show that you’re interesting to talk to and show interest for them. Once you’ve successfully started the conversation, the rest will flow along easily. 

Remember to keep your personal information enclosed because you don’t know if they will try to do something shady with your information. When you give out your name, don’t give out your last name. If they are a good person, they will most likely not ask. 

You always want to be aware of your surroundings before you try to approach a stranger. Of course, you have to use your instinct in this because, if some people seem shady, you shouldn’t approach them. 

Also, take note of their surrounding. Are they alone or are they with someone else. If they are alone then you have nothing to worry about. However, do take notice of the little details. 

Speaking in Groups 

Speaking in groups may seem less intimidating because the attention is divided to those around you. Of course, speaking in groups may seem harsh at times too since there is a high chance that the people around you cannot hear you or that they are not paying attention to you because of someone else who is stealing the spotlight. 

However, even if you’re not the discussion leader, that doesn’t mean you can’t play a part in changing the conversation around. 

If you notice someone who is in the same position as you then try to shift the conversation around so that they can be the one doing the talking. 

That way, no one will be feeling left out of the group. Of course, if the person would rather listen than talk then it is best to leave them be. 

In a group, it’s especially important that you maintain proper eye contact with the person that you are speaking to at the moment. Of course, you can occasionally direct your eye contact to everyone else around the group. 

Phone Conversations 

Phone conversations work practically the same way as a normal face-to-face conversation. Everything that you do in front of others should be done the same way through phone. 

You have to show the same amount of enthusiasm you feel when you talk to some- one in real life. Although the person on the other end of the phone cannot see what you are doing and how your body language is, that doesn’t mean that you can’t give it away from your tone of voice. 

Even if it may sound unbelievable, the person on the other end of the phone can actually hear you smiling. The reason how that’s possible is because of your facial expression. 

Your facial expression is very important to your tone of voice. If you are smiling then your tone will most likely sound happy. Even if people cannot see you smiling, they can imagine that you are. 

During a phone conversation, you have to make sure that you are closely listening to what the other person has to say. 

It’s a lot easier to get distracted during a phone conversation since you’re not directly looking at someone and speaking to them. 

Since there is no one around you, there is no one to keep you in check. A good practice to keep in mind is to summarize what the other party has said. 

This way, you have a clear sense of what’s going on and the other party believes that you are paying attention to them. 

Overall, there is nothing much different between face-to-face and on phone conversation. It is easier to talk to someone over the phone because they cannot see what you look like but it is also harder because you can be easily distracted. 

 

 

 

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